Why were they losers?

Disclaimer: The names have been changed to protect the innocent.

If you are single and you deeply want to be married, then you may understand parts of this post.
When I was a little girl,  I dreamed of marrying the one that God had chosen for me to marry. Due to the fact that most of the people in my family marry young and to avoid the temptation of premarital sex, I always assumed I would marry young as well. Now that I am past the point in my life in which I assumed I would at least be dating my future husband, I have come to accept that marrying as young as I thought I would is not God's plan for me.

Until 11 months ago, I was in the dating scene. I tried everything to meet the One. I did online dating, I went on blind dates, I went to my church's singles group, and every man I passed who appeared in the proper age group and didn't have a wedding band on was looked at as potential. I was obsessed and I kept picking out the wrong ones.

So what exactly was wrong with them? Why were they losers?

It has taken me most of the last 11 months to come to a serious answer to that question.

The simple answer is that they were not right because none of them was the one that God wants me to be with.

The complex answer is that there was something wrong and sometimes it was many of these problems.

1. We didn't share the same kind faith.
After years and years of being told that dating non-Christians is a bad idea. I learned that even if we are both Christians that wasn't always enough. When I dated Antonio, we were both Christians, however, Antonio didn't go to church, he didn't do devotions and we never once brought Jesus into the conversation. While dating him, my faith suffered. I didn't go to church as frequently and I thought less and less about the amazing things that Jesus had done for my life.

2. We didn't have the same expectations out of life.
When I dated Vicente, we had a similar faith, however, we didn't want the same things out of life. Vicente never wants to have children. I want children, both biological and adopted children.

3. There wasn't a spark.
When I dated Pedro, he seemed perfect on paper. We both knew where we were heading in life and what we expected from life. We both went to church and frequently discussed Jesus and what He meant to our lives. But there was still something missing. When we spent time together, it was like hanging out with a brother. Pedro is going to be a great husband to someone else some day.

These are just the answers that I have come to so far and there may have been more problems, but I wanted to share what I had learned so far.